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Boosting your child's personality development

Team AckoFeb 8, 2024

Every child is unique. There are several factors that influence a child’s personality. Some of the major personality traits parameters include temperament of the child, timid or bold, if the child is talkative or quiet, the order of birth, that is, if the child is the oldest, the middle one, or the youngest, and gender of the child to name a few. 



    The role of a parent is equally important in shaping a child’s personality. For instance, if the parents are overly anxious, indulgent or disapproving, strict or easy, all of it impacts the child’s personality development. Hence, it is paramount that parents have to respect and understand their child’s unique personality.

    Never appraise your child based on what others think 

    At this point, children will be comfortable in expressing themselves with words and also become a little independent. They would want to do more stuff on their own and rely less on others. They also develop emotions and learn to manage them too. At this stage, you can train them to be more confident and help them to manage their social skills. Have a balance to allow them to grow naturally. 

    Ways you can help your child develop a good personality

    1. Learn to accept kids the way they are 

    Accept the fact that your child is or will be different from other kids and has his own individual strengths and weaknesses. As a parent, learn to manage and be responsive and sensitive to your child’s needs. 

    Grandma’s Tip: Do not ever over pressurize your child to become like the neighbor’s kid or his friends. He will be different in a remarkable way from his own sibling too. 

    2. Go for productive games 

    Games always have a huge influence on a child's development. Allow your child to play and enjoy. Playtime helps in enhancing your child's personality. It helps him to develop physically, mentally, and emotionally. It teaches teamwork, conflict resolution, creativity, and social skills. Children also learn to stand up for themselves, create, explore, and lead when they play in groups. 

    3. Do not label your child 

    Never ever label your child as a ‘’shy kid,’’ ‘’timid,’’ or an ‘’introvert.’’ On the other hand, never over-praise him as someone who is ‘’too bold,’’ ‘’bossy,’’ or ‘’tough.’’ The more your start mentioning these words in front of your child, the more he will start thinking the same way. Do not allow your child’s personality to be shaped by yours or someone else thoughts and perception.

    4. Always lead by example 

    You are your child’s role model. Your child will imitate you the most. Children pick up everything from their parents. This includes traits like politeness, patience, kindness, etc. Allow them to share their views. Give them a new activity or area to try out, let them make mistakes and learn from it. Always encourage their efforts and the small risks they take. You can also read stories of courageous men and women and explain how important it is to be brave and confident in life. 

    5. Give some freedom and space 

    Do not teach everything to your kid. Let him learn on his own, gain confidence, make mistakes, etc. Spoon feeding every bit will make your child very frail as he grows. Do not create your child's personality, let it develop on its own since personalities can’t be created. They take their own turns and shapes. Let your child be himself. 

    6. Do not force your ideas on your child

    Let your child do things slowly and take his time. Let him make his own friends, be creative in his playtime or at school. Do not worry if he is quiet now, slowly he will open up and start talking. If you force your views too much on your child, he may back-off. Let him grow and meet the world in his own way. Give him experiences that will support his growth in new directions. 

    7. Try to create a loving and supportive environment 

    Encourage your child’s strengths and help him grow. Let him figure out how to respond to challenging tasks on his own. Appreciate when he does the same. 

    The key things to remember:


    You can boost your child’s confidence by encouragement. Give him freedom and help him in decision-making so he becomes responsible for his activities. As a parent, you need to train him on how to be responsible for his actions and the outcomes that follow. You have to build trust in your child and have an open communication. You have to guide, help, warn him about the consequences. Encouraging decision-making will help in building a feeling of confidence and independence in your child. 


    Appreciation and praise are equally important in bringing up and molding your child’s personality. Positive reinforcement and encouragement from parents make children feel proud of themselves. Appreciation motivates the child to be good and work towards becoming better. Acknowledgment in the form of an immediate hug or a simple high five for good behavior builds the trust and creates fond memories for kids even when they grow up. It improves their social skills. 

    Mutual respect 

    Children are constantly learning and picking up new habits from school, friends, and people around them. Patience and discipline are required while you raise your child. Do not scold or shout at him too much. Allow open communication and listen to your child. Respect his views and opinions and appreciate his thoughts and actions. You can help and build your child’s self-esteem and confidence. 

    Managing failure 

    Let your child know that there are times in life when there will be disappointments. It could be simple, at his level, like not getting the flavor of his favorite ice-cream, or the shop is closed itself. There could be a case where his friends do not allow him to be a part of some game. Small failures help your child to develop key characteristics, like coping skills, creative thinking, and the ability to collaborate so they succeed later in life. As a parent, you need to teach that failure is a temporary setback and he can manage it. Do not lose patience and let him learn slowly. You can't always be there to manage his every need, so prepare your child to manage setbacks. Instill in your kid the power to work hard and deal with failure. 

    Life is a balance of joy and sorrows! Be a mentor to your child and help him believe in his ability to succeed no matter how long it takes!

    Disclaimer: This content is for informational purposes only, based on industry experience and secondary sources. It is not a substitute for professional advice. Please consult a qualified expert for health or insurance-related decisions. Content is subject to change, refer to current policy wordings for specific ACKO details.



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